Dear Amy: Can I just ghost her? (I haven’t spent any time with her for about a year.) Do I owe her some kind of explanation, and if so, what should it be?
I have known “Lara” for many years. We don’t have a lot in common and it can be trying to spend time with her – she monopolizes conversations, tells inappropriate stories and can be extremely negative.However, she was very persistent about befriending me, so I saw her casually and also spent many hours supporting her after a job loss a decade ago.Advertisement
Earlier this year I lost my own job. It hasn’t been all bad – I’ve been able to help my ailing parents and found some part-time work – but some days it takes everything I have to stay positive. But she’s been reaching out to me for months, despite my attempts to brush her off politely, and now is getting her husband to text me.I will admit that I resent having to do this emotional labor during a difficult time for someone I never felt close to.AdvertisementDear No More Negativity: Placing this friendship on “pause” is precisely what you should do.
Consider a “pre-blocking” measure. Email her to say, “You’ve continued to reach out to me, but I want you to know that I haven’t responded because my plate is full right now. I’ll reach out again when I’m ready, but until then I need to take a ‘pause.’ Take good care of yourself.”If she refuses to respect your wishes and continues to contact you, then it might be time to block her and consider the friendship to have ended.
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