Since when is it OK for anyone, much less a stranger, to say such things?
I’m sending this in the hope that ignorant people who say things like this will read it and realize how hurtful their comments can be to expectant mothers. Also, how should I respond if someone else makes a similar comment?Two responses come immediately to mind. The first would be to tell the person who made the thoughtless comment, “Wow, that was tactless!” Or say, “Nope. It’s just one healthy baby in there.” Of course, a third option is to say nothing and walk away.
Now Ken has invited Dan and me to join him and his wife for an evening out, and he wants to “meet early for drinks.” Dan is sure Ken will buy another bottle to share. I think Dan should give Ken a heads-up beforehand. Dan thinks it would be rude to refuse a drink and doesn’t want to have to go into an explanation as to why we don’t.
We don’t care if the people we are with drink alcohol. Is there a polite way to decline a drink without offending? Should it be ahead of time or at the restaurant?It is perfectly acceptable to refuse alcohol. For various reasons, many people forgo “the grape” these days. If a server asks your husband what beverage he would like, your husband should state his preference — be it sparkling water, a soft drink, a juice drink, etc. There is no shame in it, and it isn’t rude.
That the host is providing alcohol is not a mandate to indulge, particularly if the guest has a problem with it. If Ken pushes, Dan should simply tell him the two of you generally prefer not to drink alcohol.I’m wishing you a happy, healthy 2022. Whew, folks! I can’t believe we made it so quickly through 2021! I will join you tonight toasting a new year that will be a less stressful year for all of us.
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