'Our reasons for ending the relationship may be clear, but the guilt is usually a result of feeling as though we have hurt another person,' says consultant psychologist Elena Touroni.
Stephen, 30, who only wants to share his first name to protect his identity, tells Refinery29 he is going throughright now. “I just turned 30 a few months ago and I was in a 10-year relationship," he says."I’d literally been with her for my entire 20s. I realized I wasn’t where I wanted to be in life at all. I’d barely done anything. I wanted to change that, and I just didn’t think I could do it with her.
. I really don’t want to get back together. I know I made the right decision, but it’s hard to feel happy with it because I feel like I’ve ruined her life," Stephen explains.all too well. But those breakups where things have simply come to an end, when you’ve fallen out of love but no one has done anything particularly bad, are uniquely hard to endure.
based in London, describes breakup guilt simply as the intense guilt we feel after leaving a relationship.“We may find ourselves ruminating over the break up and the role we played in it and feeling like we’re a 'bad' person for ending the relationship,” Touroni tells Refinery29. “When we’re feeling guilty we might experience feelings of shame and doubt ourselves and our decision. It can even lead to us isolating ourselves.
“When there is no clear-cut reason for ending the relationship, it can sometimes be harder,” she adds. “This is because it’s easier to externalize an emotion. Blame allows us to avoid taking responsibility for our own part in a relationship ending.” Like all emotions, guilt serves a function. It doesn’t just exist to hurt us. Touroni explains that guilt is not inherently bad, in and of itself.
Touroni says if you’re suffering from breakup guilt, you need to acknowledge the guilt for what it is. It’s simply a feeling — nothing more. She recommends reminding yourself of this by saying,. You can say this in your head, out loud, write it on your mirror, whatever you need.
México Últimas Noticias, México Titulares
Similar News:También puedes leer noticias similares a ésta que hemos recopilado de otras fuentes de noticias.
Where to get help if you’re struggling financially, and how to prepare for harder timesMany Americans are sinking under higher prices for gas, groceries and housing. If you’re living paycheck to paycheck, brace for it— things might get worse.
Leer más »
Tennessee Governor Signs Bill Making It Harder to Sue Gun ManufacturersTwo months after a shooting at a Christian school in Tennessee left six dead, the state’s governor has signed legislation making it harder to sue gun manufacturers.
Leer más »
New N.J. law will make stolen catalytic convertors harder to sell, gov saysA new state law adds regulations lawmakers say is aimed at reducing thefts.
Leer más »
Bumblebees Are Working Even Harder Than We ThoughtThe buzzy insects heat up when carting protein-packed pollen around. It could spell trouble for bumblers as the climate warms.
Leer más »
Making state constitutions harder to amend: Good idea, bad timingThe Constitution is notoriously hard to amend. The process set out in Article V and used for all of the Constitution’s amendments involves gaining a series of supermajorities. First, two-thirds of both chambers of Congress must approve. Second, a majority in three-fourths of the 50 state…
Leer más »
If You Always Run Out Of Room When Packing For Trips, Try These 27 Travel ProductsPack smarter, not harder.
Leer más »